How To Build Trust in A Relationship
Do you catch yourself worrying about how to build trust in a relationship? You may have to realize that if you feel like you can’t trust the man you’re with, then you maybe shouldn’t be in that relationship.
Trust is an important ingredient in any relationship. It can take a long time to build trust, and only seconds to break it. In order for your relationship to flourish, you must make a constant effort of being true to your partner, and expect the same from him.
Because trust needs time to take root, it’s common to feel doubts or be scared when you just started a romantic relationship. In particular if you had a bad experience in the past, for example if you had been betrayed by an old love, it would be more difficult to establish trust again.
Read on to see how to build trust in a relationship as the foundation for many happy years to come in a committed and healthy partnership.
Find out what Trust means to both of you
How you interact with other People matters
Always mean what you say
Share Secrets with each other
Expect that your Relationship will be tested
You must remember that it’s not fair to the man you’re with to become the recipient of your past hurt and emotional issues. Being in a relationship means, or should mean you are ready for a new journey and that you have already healed from your past breakups.
It’s now time to open up and learn how you can build trust in a relationship.
1. Find out what Trust means to both of you
You think when two adults enter a relationship, they already know what to do – the do’s and don’ts; the unbreakable rules.
But most couples fail to establish what trust means to both of them. What are the things you consider cheating and what could pass as just casual flirting? It may surprise you how different your partner’s views might be from your own!
Some men don’t consider online flirting (e.g., exchanging racy photos, sexting and constant chatting) as cheating. They believe cheating only happens when a sexual intercourse between two people took place. Take the time to discuss your views about this topic and what you won’t tolerate. It’s an important step when you just started a relationship. Finding out what trust means to your partner is also important for understanding how to make your man happy in your relationship.
2. How you interact with other People matters
I have a friend who dated this guy, which I think was an obvious jerk. He likes to flirt with every girl he meets, but when confronted, would make excuses that it was nothing; it was just a joke or “just for fun.”
She tried her best to trust this guy and gave him the benefit of a doubt. But she always had to deal with doubts and insecurities. In the end, the relationship didn’t even last for six months.
It’s hard to trust someone, especially when they’re not making an effort to gain your trust. Some guys will show you from day one what they’re made of, believe them and decide if they’re worth the trouble. The same thing goes with you. If you like getting passed-out drunk at parties, with no concern for your own welfare, you’re sending off a signal that you can’t be trusted to take care of yourself.
3. Always mean what you say
Establishing an open and effective communication is paramount. But only if you words are truthful.
If you’re just spewing words in any conversation without thinking about it, your reliability decreases. You must also look for these signs from your partner. Does he follow through on his promises? Does he make baseless claims all the time? If your man always says what he means, and does what he says, then it’s a good sign that you can trust him.
Of course, no one’s perfect. It’s the frequency that matters.
4. Share Secrets with each other
A very good way to learn how to build trust in a relationship is for the partners to share secrets with each other.
Not the deepest secret you’re not comfortable of sharing; we all have those. Besides, having a few secrets and appearing not as a completely open book to your partner is also a way how to make him worry about losing you – which can be sometimes a great little trick to keep him really focused on you.
But there are things or experiences that could affect the relationship if you don’t come clean of it. Past relationships, divorce, children from past marriages are examples of this. It may be hard to go back to the past and reveal it to another person, but just think how it can strengthen the trust you have with each other. Also keep in mind in this regard: him sharing secrets with you in turn is one of the strongest signs he likes you more than a friend.
5. Expect that your Relationship will be tested
No two relationships are the same, but all relationships have one thing in common: you’ll have issues and problems that will test your strength and the trust you have built.
You have to learn how to deal with these things because some of them are petty, and may not be worthy of your time. Know how to differentiate the insignificant issues from the real deal breakers.
When your relationship is confronted with a serious problem, that’s when you’ll know how deep the bond is that you have formed with your partner and how strong your trust is with each other. If you’re foundation is strong, you might come out unscathed from it. If not, you will have to choose to rebuild or throw in the sponge.
Also Read: Bible Verses about Relationships