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How to Get Him to Propose – Top 5 Psychological Tricks that work

How to Get Him to Propose – From Unsure to Proposing in no time

The future seems bleak for all the single ladies out there. Despite the popular study about the health-boosting benefits of marriage, the percentage of men who want to tie the knot has been decreasing in the past ten years, according to most recent marriage and divorce research data.

In fact, the number of unmarried U.S. adults since 2007 has jumped from 39% to 42%.

We know that most men are averse to marriage compared to women, but the rate of men choosing to wed is even more declining in this generation. how to get him to propose engagement ring image

While this screams bad news from an economic and social standpoint, not all hope is lost in getting a marriage proposal. Recent survey data shows that the number of young singles who are “never married and do not want to get married” is significantly lower than those who are “never married and want to get married.”

Overall, the survey shows, most women in the U.S. favor marriage over being single, but its importance has dropped.

So, there’s still a chance that your man is interested in saying I do, even if he hasn’t put a ring on your finger yet.

Getting your man to propose, of course, is entirely up to him. You can’t force someone who is hell-bent in not marrying, but there are several reasons why some men postpone marriage indefinitely.

Understanding these reasons and learning what marriage means to both of you is an important step in upgrading your relationship. Here’s what you should do (and what not!) to get him to propose.

  1. Do not issue an Ultimatum

  2. Understand what Marriage means to Him

  3. Give him Signals, but don’t overdo it

  4. Don’t be so obsessed about Marriage

1. Do not issue an Ultimatum

I know some men who would run at the first hint of marriage. Relationship ultimatums is not entirely taboo, but it could be a death wish if you’re dating a reluctant man. Although it’s possible to get someone to commit by serving him an ultimatum, that person will eventually feel resentful for being pressured into doing something he doesn’t want to do (yet). By creating ultimatums, you are turning your relationship into a power struggle—asserting that the power is in your hands. Being stripped of his power is never good for the male ego.

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2. Understand what Marriage means to Him

Take the case of Lissa and Jun. Lissa believes that marriage is the ultimate proof of someone’s love. It’s a sign that the person really want to spend his lifetime with you. On the other hand, Jun believes that marriage is just a social construct that is unfair to men. Mainly because the dangers of divorce carries the risk of losing his kids and his money. The beliefs we have when we were young may change, as we get older and more mature. As your understanding of matrimony deepens throughout the course of your relationship, you can reconsider if marriage is what you really need in your life.

What should you do if your boyfriend says he loves you, but he doesn’t want to get married EVER?

First, respect his belief. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to get married. Lying is bad. Cheating is bad. Leading you on is cruel. But a man who outright tells you he’s not the marrying type should not be despised for his honesty. The next thing to do is assess if marriage is more important to you than your relationship. If you can’t imagine being with a man who’s not entirely sold on the idea of a wedding bliss, then it’s time to move on and find someone who does.

3. Give him Signals, but don’t overdo it

One of the reasons why men can’t propose to a woman is because they’re not yet financially capable. Engagement rings aside, men knows the cost of marriage and having a family. A great deal of men who are reluctant to get married think that the ceremony itself is too lavish and expensive, and they are not sure if they can be a great provider in the long haul. Give him subtle hints on the type of wedding you want. If a simple, intimate celebration works for you, let him know. Tell him that you’re willing to work hard as his partner in keeping your family together. Sometimes a man just needs to know that she’s marrying a woman who will stay with him, for better or worse, in sickness and in unemployment. This will hopefully lessen his fears and insecurities about family life.

4. Don’t be so obsessed about Marriage

Some women want to be married; some want to have a wedding. The problem with women who put more importance in the ceremony than the union itself is they often have an unrealistic expectation of what a perfect wedding should be like. In return, men are pressured to provide the wedding their woman deserves—just to prove their love. Preparing for the “perfect” wedding may take years, and who knows when they would suddenly feel unenthusiastic in trying to meet your expectations? You should think about the signals you’re sending to your boyfriend. It could be the reason why he can’t go down on his knees all these years. There are also men who will find your constant obsession with getting married as a sign of being needy or desperate. Simply put, it turns them off.

So, instead of scattering bridal magazines on his table, why not try to keep yourself busy. Get a makeover. Go out with your friends often. Engage in self-enriching hobbies to get your mind of the diamond ring you are not getting. Taking care of yourself makes you more attractive to your man. If he sees you as the “best thing that ever happened to him,” it’s impossible for him not to turn you into Mrs. His.

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How much of Communication is really Nonverbal

Statistics on Communication – 93% of all daily Communication is Nonverbal

We all experience it on a daily basis. Communication for which no words are needed. Nonverbal communication, as it is called.

One often quoted statistic on communication is that 93% of all daily communication is actually nonverbal.

Specifically, Albert Mehrabian, a pioneer researcher of body language in the 1950’s, found that only 7% of any message is conveyed through words, 38% through certain vocal elements, and 55% through nonverbal elements like facial expressions, gestures, posture, etc.

With the overall percentage of actual verbal content amounting to only 7%, our daily communication is therefore to 93% nonverbal.

 

All various forms of it combined make a big percentage of what our daily communication with others looks like, without having to use proper words.

And while the key to success in both personal and professional relationships lies in your ability to communicate effectively, it’s not the words that you use but your nonverbal cues or “body language” that speak the loudest.

Non-verbal communication is hereby vastly underrated.

Not only do most of us not realize how much we really communicate every day without actually using words, we also tend to underestimate the impact our non-vocal expressions can have with the recipient.

The following chart by Bridget Higton provides a good example of various types of non-verbal communication, we may not even think of.

 

chart showing types of nonverbal communication forms

 

Let’s look at some of the questions related to non-verbal communication:

  1. What is “nonverbal” Communication?

  2. How often is our Communication nonverbal?

  3. What Forms of nonverbal Communication we practice – intentionally or not?

  4. Finding the Balance between nonverbal and verbal Communication

 

1. What is “nonverbal” Communication?

“Nonverbal” communication can be expressed in many different ways. It can be expressed through hand gestures, nods, using your body in various other ways, making eye contact with someone, or through the sound of your voice.

 

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2. How often is our Communication nonverbal?

The question is: How often do we actually use non-verbal communication? And why? What are major reasons behind it?

Anthropologist Ray Birdwhistell, like Mehrabian, found that the verbal component of a face-to-face conversation is less than 35 percent and that over 65 percent of communication is done nonverbally.

 

3. What Forms of nonverbal Communication we practice – intentionally or not

A good example of the use of non-verbal communication can be found not only in romantic relationships between e.g. women and men, but also in children.

The earliest form of communication they use with their caretakers is indeed non-verbal.

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Babies are making sounds, of course, but they can be categorized as non-verbal in many cases.

Coo-cooing sounds, grasping one’s finger as a sign of comfort, or even undistinguished crying are all ways of communicating before they acquire the skills of speaking.

It’s fascinating to see how much we can understand from these given clues, and how we continue throughout adolescence and adulthood to rely on non-verbal communication in situations where words fail us, or simply seem superfluous.

We should pay closer attention to some of those non-verbal cues, in particular in relationships where we constantly wonder and ask ourselves about our partner’s level of affection or love towards us.

Paying close attention to non-verbal communication could help answering questions as to whether e.g. your “ex” wants you back or in general could it help understanding your partner better.

 

Once we are used to a routine, whether it be with our children or spouse, we learn how to make tasks simpler for each other.

It could be a swift move of the hand to indicate you’d like your child to move along a bit quicker, or a subtle gesture towards an item you’d like to be given (like a salt shaker or napkin).

Often, these are precious little moments; easily understood and time-saving for everyone involved.

From my own experience, I would go as far and say that way over 50% of communication in a regular day is non-verbal.

I live in a household where daily conversations are a given and talking is an essential component of having meals together, but I also understand that not every family emphasizes or is interested in as much verbal communication as we are. So it really depends on the situation at home, and who is around.

However, the reality is that the exact number, the exact split between verbal- and non-verbal communication is not the most crucial aspect.

Or, as Blake from the “Nonverbal Group” notices in “How much of communication is really nonverbal?”, it does not matter so much whether exactly 75%, 80% or even 90% of communication is non-verbal.

What matters is to understand that most communication is in fact nonverbal. Hence, nonverbal behavior is the most crucial aspect of communication.

Then, secondary, we have to think of the non-verbal communication we partake in outside of our home.

You might be in a car and are signaled to go ahead of the other driver. Then a wave or nod would be appropriate to acknowledge it, wouldn’t it be?

How often have you found yourself in such a situation? It might easily be a daily occurrence on your way to work.

Or maybe you like to give out a smile to the barista who just handed you your drink order.

There are so many situations in which we decide to remain quiet, but still like to express our gratitude, anger, or love for another person in a non-verbal way.

We do it all the time, every day! Often times we do these things without being aware of it.

The interesting aspect of it all is that there’s no loss of significance by communicating in such a manner.

Sometimes the effect and impact is actually greater through non-verbal communication than if we used our words.

Looking into someone’s eyes, for example, can be profound and deeply moving.

Holding a hand can be the most meaningful thing in the world, especially during sickness of a loved one.

Communication in general plays a vital role in creating a healthy relationship. This holds true for both verbal as well as non-verbal communication.

When you combine it all, there’s a tremendous amount of non-verbal communication going on, and it’s beautiful.

However, in any type of relationship this can only be a supplement to an already existing, verbal communication.

You can’t replace one with the other, for obvious reasons. A romantic relationship, for instance, needs constant verbal communication in order to survive.

There’s hugging, kissing, cuddling and smiling at each other – but when it comes to serious topics, you also need to have those verbal conversations that you otherwise would like to try to avoid.

[Also read: How can you tell if a Guy likes You]

 

This is one of the most important points:

4. Finding the Balance between nonverbal and verbal Communication

Finding a healthy balance is key. Make sure to tell people “thank you” and “you’re welcome”, but sometimes a smile is all that is needed, and can contribute to making someone’s day a little brighter.

To summarize on non-verbal communication: It’s a big portion of any communication we partake in, and we can’t avoid it being that way.

[Further Reading: Relationship Advice for Women]

It’s a simple, human, instinctive, and, might I even say, fun way to interact with others.

I know that I love kissing my daughter on her cheek, without uttering a single word, and by me doing that, she knows that I care for her and love her.

That’s what nonverbal communication can do and it’s a good reason to keep doing it.

7 Reasons Why Women and Men can’t just be Friends (Case Study)

Why Women and Men can’t just be Friends?!

Opinions vary on this question – some would say it’s absolutely possible to be friends with the opposite gender, while others call it absurd and destined for failure.

image of guy and girl in bed being friendsMen and women meet and befriend each other at different points in their lives, and for some it works, and for others it doesn’t.

If we only go back half a century, it was unheard of for a man or woman to go out with the opposite gender without being romantically involved.

Oh my, it could cause a scandal! Of course much has changed since then, but certain differences still remain, which can lead to difficulties in female/male friendships.

I will give you more than enough reasons why I do believe men and women can’t just be friends.

 

So here we go:

  1. Sex complicates it

  2. Men don’t invest the same as Women

  3. It can endanger a serious Relationship

  4. There’s Gossip all around

  5. Going on different Life Paths

  6. Secretly wanting to Date the Other

  7. A jealous Partner

 

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1. Sex complicates it

I’m not implying that every man/woman friendship eventually leads to sex, but many do!

The truth is:

There is always the knowing that it can, even if there’s no initial attraction.

Once you have had sex with each other, it’s a tricky path to get it back to “only friendship”.

You’ve shared a very intimate experience with each other and can almost place him/her in the same category as an ex.

Having sex with a friend can cause friction and often times there will be a broken heart in the end, if one of you might feel more than the other.

Therefore, it’s never only a friendship, even if you have only pictured yourself having sex with your friend.

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2. Men don’t invest the same as Women

Male and female friendships are different in so many ways.

Women always invest more time and effort into theirs, which is why they usually have stronger bonds with their girlfriends than their guy counterparts.

Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but overall men don’t care for their friendships the same way as women do.

That being said, women expect more and receive less in a friendship with a male, and this usually leads to the friendship falling apart at some point. Especially when changes occur, and one of them moves, has kids, changes jobs etc.

 

 

With a great distance between friends, men often discard the ones far away, and try to make new ones where they are, instead of going through the whole procedure of staying in touch through email, letters, or phone calls.

Long phone calls aren’t something most guys are interested in, while women do it all the time.

[Also read: Why do Men pull away?]

 

This is one of the most important Points:

3. It can endanger a serious Relationship

Without the intention to, it can actually harm the one of their love relationships, which is why women and men likewise withdraw more once the other person has a serious relationship, and even more so after they get married.

They don’t like being seen as a threat, and to cause arguments over their friendship.

Unless the friends spouse makes it clear that it’s ok, and maybe gives out an invitation for dinner, there remains a feeling of being a third wheel, and unwelcomed in their new life together.

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[Further Reading: Relationship Advice for Women]

 

4. There’s Gossip all around

Should you care about gossip? Absolutely not, but that doesn’t mean it can’t still affect your life negatively.

Besides, most people, despite the fact that they shouldn’t, care in one way or another.

 

gossiping about relationship between friends

 

If you’re living in the city, this won’t be much of a problem, but it applies if you live in a small town where neighbors talk, and everyone knows everyone.

Being seen with the opposite sex as friends seems unusual to the village folks, and if you have more than one friend, then it will definitely cause the long awaited gossip.

People will talk, but also ask questions, which are probably none of their business, but they’ll assume they can anyway, and would want to know what the deal is between you two.

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5. Going on different Life Paths

Men and women function differently, and their life paths are often so different that they are not relatable to the other person.

This might not be an issue in the beginning, but could become one down the road.

Once kids are there, the lives they live are usually on opposite poles, and therefore it’s much more difficult to engage with the other person the same way as before.

Again, there are exceptions, but often time friendships dissolve due to that.

[Also read: How can you tell if a Guy likes You]

 

6. Secretly wanting to Date the Other

This is one of the biggest reasons why men and women can’t be friends easily.

This one is important:

There is a high chance that one of them secretly wants to date the other person, and will do almost anything to get out of the friend-zone.

This is a time-consuming undertaking, and can be quite toxic over time, if there’s no development in the friendship.

 

 

It will exhaust the person who is pursuing, but also put a strain on the friendship, because ultimately, the other person will sense what’s going on.

If the feelings aren’t mutual then, she/he will withdraw and, without wanting to, hurt that person’s feelings. There is a clear line between friendship and modern-day courtship between men and women.

 

7. A jealous Partner

Actually this is the worst reason why a friendship between men and women can’t exist, but nonetheless an important element to consider, if you love your partner.

Jealously of an old friend is silly and unnecessary, but nonetheless, it’s a natural feeling that can’t be helped for many.

However, building trust in a relationship is very important, maybe more than anything else. Open communication with each other is key in understanding men, and if your partner tells you it’s uncomfortable for him/her seeing you with the other gender, even if it’s only as friends, then make an effort to find out why, and careful think about the value of this friendship.

Is it worth keeping and hurting your partner’s feelings?

How to tell if a Coworker likes You – 7 Signs to find out Immediately!

One of the best and often most convenient places to meet a match is work. After all, it’s where you spend a big part of your time. Can you think of a co-worker you’d like to go on a date with, but are unsure if he’s into you? Are you looking for signs a coworker likes you or do you wonder how to tell if a coworker likes you?

Follow this guide, and it will give you a pretty good clue whether he’s into you or not.

  1. He times His Breaks with Yours

  2. How to tell if a coworker likes you? He observes You!

  3. He asks You to after-work Events

  4. Your male Co-worker likes You if He defends You

  5. He tries to interact with You as often as possible

  6. He contacts you outside the Work space

  7. Your Co-worker likes You if He wants to commute Home together

Watch out for these signs and you might find out that your co-worker is into you.

1. He times His Breaks with Yours

If you notice him taking his breakfast, lunch and coffee breaks at the exact same time as yours, then chances are he’s trying to get some down time with you. And even more so if he tries to chat with you during each of those breaks or whenever time allows!

Chances are the run-ins aren’t by accident. He’s making an effort to spend time with you at work, maybe he already sees his work-crush in you!

2. How to tell if a coworker likes you? He observes You!

Not in a creepy way, but do you catch him looking at you often and with a smile? That is one of the very strong signs a male coworker likes you and is having a crush on you!

Also, does he always say hello and ask about your day? It’s usually a sign that he’s interested enough to find out more. If the interest is mutual, smile back and start a new conversation next time you catch him looking at you. Pay attention to his eyes too: they do a lot of the flirting!

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3. He asks You to after-work Events

In case he’s a little shy, he might not ask you out right away, but could ask you to join the “gang” after work for happy hour or dinner. If he does, then he’s aiming for a one-on-one date with you, but wants to calculate his chances first by asking you out within the group.

Sometimes that makes him feel more comfortable and reduces the chances of a major letdown. If you say no, then he didn’t take that much of a risk to begin with, since he didn’t ask you out privately. Things could potentially become awkward between you afterwards, so he likes to play it safe first.

4. Your male Co-worker likes You if He defends You

This is important to differentiate from the friend zone. A good friend would also defend you at work, but if he’s interested romantically, then he’ll be more direct and most likely compliment you during the process, if someone says something negative about or to you.

He wouldn’t ignore it, but stand up for you and let you know that he thinks highly of you and that he cares about you, no matter what. In this case, he is actually trying to get out of the friend zone with you. Yet, note that him defending you is one of the more subtle signs a coworker likes you, so pay close attention to it.

5. He tries to interact with You as often as possible

A guy doesn’t waste his time on someone he’s not interested in, so if he’s talking a lot to you, asks for your advice, or takes advantage of finding you in a talkative position at work, then he’s flirting, and you know it!

He could easily ignore you or only make it about work, but if he asks about your dating life or mentions other personal topics, he’s trying to warm up and get to know you better. If he goes out of his way, even when it’s not a break, to come up to you to talk, or even brings you snacks or coffee, your coworker is having a little crush, guaranteed!

6. He contacts you outside the Work space

If you are already friends and on good terms, he might text or call you after working hours. If he does, then check if you’re possibly more than just a friend to him! It’s usually a sign that he’s trying to start something if he takes time out of his day to get in touch with you, even after you’ve spent all day at work together.

Does he ask you out for a movie or to grab a bite together? Sounds like a date to me! Or, if things are fresh and you have just recently met at work, he might ask for your number, or give you his at the first chance. Then ask yourself: do you have all your co-workers phone numbers? Probably not!

7. Your Co-worker likes You if He wants to commute Home together

As long as you give him the o.k., he might want to partially commute home with you, even if that means taking a detour. If he enjoys your company, he will want to spend extra time with you, cue: riding the metro or bus home together, or offering you a ride, if applicable.

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Am I Ready for a Relationship? Instantly find out the Truth!

Timing is often the key to finding the right person and being able to commit to a relationship. People in their early 20’s often aren’t ready for a relationship, but when they hit their 30’s, oh boy, are they ready!

Not everyone goes through this transformation, of course, but many do. But how do you know when you’re really ready for it? Do you ask yourself “Am I ready for a relationship?” or you’re even really worried “I’m not ready for a relationship!”

Well, let’s find out! What signs do you have to look out for? Let’s start with the following list:

  1. Am I ready to be in a Relationship? Yes, if you don’t look around anymore!

  2. You’re happy being by Yourself

  3. Am I ready for a Relationship? Yes, if You appreciate the “inner Qualities”!

  4. You’re no longer being selfish

  5. You’re making Plans for the Future

  6. Understanding the Importance of Communication

With these in check, you’re off to a good start when entering a relationship at this stage in your life.

1. Am I ready to be in a Relationship? Yes, if you don’t look around anymore!

Remember the times when you thought someone better might come along and you’re missing out? Yes, those! If you no longer feel this way when being with someone, then you are as ready as it gets.

It means you’re ready to commit to one person only, and that is a huge factor in being ready for a serious relationship.

Also read: How to get a guy to commit to you?!

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2. You’re happy being by Yourself

The number one rule is to never enter a relationship for reasons that are wrong, such as not wanting to be alone or not feeling contempt with yourself.

The saying “you have to love yourself first before you can love others” is a true statement! When you’re able to be alone and still be happy and not needing someone by your side, just for the heck of it, then that’s a sign of readiness.

It’s important to be self-reliant and capable to be on your own before opening the door to let someone share that life with you.

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3. Am I ready for a Relationship? Yes, if You appreciate the “inner Qualities”!

Back in the days, you might have been looking for the best body, the best hair, or the bluest eyes on someone, but the more mature you get, the less these things will matter.

You will start looking for real qualities that are crucial for a relationship, and not just suitable for a fling. Don’t choose sparks over a stable relationship when committing long-term! Is the person trustworthy, honest and faithful? Is the person caring and ready to settle down too? Can this person make you laugh?

When you start caring about these things more than the physical features, you know you want to be in it for the long haul!

4. You’re no longer being selfish

Relationships are about compromising and including another person in your decision-making. If you’re OK with that arrangement and feel as if you can allow the other person in, then that’s great!

However, if you’re still being selfish and only concerned about your wants and needs, then you might want to rethink being in a relationship. Selfishness needs to go in order to have a healthy relationship with someone. Of course, you and your desires are important, but so are your partner’s! You have to be o.k. with finding a middle ground together when disagreements occur, instead of going off all alone.

5. You’re making Plans for the Future

The time has come to think about your grand future! Who would have thought? If you’re making plans, especially with another special person in mind, then you’re truly ready to commit.

When we’re ridiculously young, we usually don’t give our next few years and what might happen in the future, a second thought, but that can easily change over time. If it does, and you can see yourself settling down and planning vacations, baby-making, your retirement, all with one special person, then you’re relationship- ready!

Even if the plans don’t work out in the end, the main thing is that you were willing to think them through and come up with them in the first place.

6. Understanding the Importance of Communication

Communication is the most essential element in a functioning relationship. It’s never easy, and definitely takes some learning, but when you have mastered the lesson of being open and honest to each other, sharing intimate details about yourself, and always letting your partner know how you feel, then you’ve officially become a relationship-person.

Arguments and disagreements are unavoidable, but what sets you apart from the people who aren’t relationship-ready, is how you handle these situations with your partner.

Don’t yell or leave the room/house, and assume everything will work itself out. Talk about it and figure out what the underlying cause of it is, while remaining respectful and loving towards one another. Such behavior is key when later on working on being a good girlfriend to your partner.

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Kiss on a first Date? Proven Ways to get it Right!

The question “kissing on the first date – yes or no?” is a question that offers many different answers, depending on who you ask. Some say it’s crucial in order to seal a second date, others say it’s way too intimate to do on a first date.

happy couple holding each other about to kissThere are some clues, which can help you to figure out this rather tricky situation. That’s where I come into the picture! Read on and be aware of the following:

  1. Kiss on a first Date? It doesn’t guarantee Anything!

  2. Follow your Instincts

  3. What’s the worst that could happen?

  4. Watch your Date’s  Body-Language

  5. Should You kiss on the first Date? It depends on the Kiss!

  6. Seal the Deal

In the end, it’s all about personal preference, but hopefully this will give you an idea on what to go by if you can’t decide if kissing on the first date is right for you.

1. Kiss on a first Date? It doesn’t guarantee Anything!

Kissing on the first date doesn’t mean that it’s meant to be and that it will be the last relationship you’ll ever have.

That being said, it can be the start of something good, as long as you keep your expectations realistic and realize that it doesn’t guarantee a “happily ever after”, which is anyway a myth more than anything else. However, it could be! Just be aware that it’s only a kiss on a first date, not a marriage proposal.

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2. Follow your Instincts

The date is going really well, and your instincts tells you to go in for a kiss. Your instinct is most likely right on that one! What does your gut tell you?

Follow what feels right and don’t over-think it.  This is a very simple dating rule, but an essential one. Don’t think about your “reputation”, what others have been telling you about it, or what your date might think. That person probably wants to go for it too!

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3. What’s the worst that could happen?

Even if the kiss is bad, or simply not good enough, what do you have to lose? The worst that could happen, if you decide not to kiss, is that your date feels unwanted and rejected; sensing that you weren’t interested. If you’re not, of course don’t kiss that person! That goes without saying.

But if you are, then you could lose the chance of a second date and the guy might pull away from you. If you kiss and it turned out to be unsatisfying and you don’t want to go out with this person again, so be it. At least you know where you stand. So there’s really no loosing by kissing on a first date.

4. Watch your Date’s  Body-Language

It takes two to tango, and the same applies to kissing. Even if you’re feeling it, the other person might not, so watch out for their body language and overall behavior. Trying to figure out how to understand men? A person’s body language can reveal the underlying truth for almost any situation.

It’s usually crystal clear whether they want more from you or not. Do they lean in, do they flirt heavily with you, and do they use every chance they can get to be close to you? A hand on your shoulder, an “accidental” hit against your waist, getting close to your face, whispering in your ear … if these aren’t indicators of your date’s interest, then I don’t know what is! You’re clearly in for a first kiss with that person. Don’t hesitate or doubt it. Remember that this is not about trying to get him to marry you, We are only talking about a kiss!

At the same time, his body language indicating reluctance on his part could indicate he likes you but is scared to move forward with kissing you.

5. Should You kiss on the first Date? It depends on the Kiss!

If you’re unsure on how to go about it, and you want to keep a certain modesty about the first kiss, that’s perfectly fine and understandable. However, that doesn’t mean that you can’t still kiss on the first date.

There are a whole range of kisses to give out! The best thing about the first kiss is that you can give your date a preview of what’s to come, if you end up dating afterwards! Let it be an innocent kiss, short and sweet. But at the same time, make it powerful and show your date your underlying passion.

Hold his/her face in your hands or gently tug on his/her shirt while kissing. It will be greatly appreciated! With that, you’re not giving away all your kissing skills at once, and reserve the best for last.

6. Seal the Deal

In my personal experience, a kiss on a first date has always led to a second one, and often times even to a relationship. If nothing else, multiple dates have occurred with that person before we realized it’s not the right fit after all.

I always expect a kiss in the end, if the date goes well, and so do many others I’ve talked to about this subject. So take a risk and seal the deal by kissing (if the date is going as well as hoped!).

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Signs a Guy likes you but is Scared – Top 9 Ways to find out for sure!

Isn´t it the sweetest thing when a guy is affectionate towards you, but scared to make the first move and ask you out? It is, but on the other hand, how can you be sure that he really likes you? What do you need to be on the look-out for?

man and woman talking he is scared of relationshipHere are the 9 top signs a guy likes you but is scared. So nervous and scared, that he simply would not admit to it.

  1. He´s nervous around You

  2. He asks about Your weekend Plans

  3. How to know when a Guy likes you but is scared? He happens to be at the same Place as You a lot!

  4. One of the best Signs a Guy likes you but is scared? He´s smiling all over You!

  5. He doesn’t notice anything else around Him

  6. He compliments You shyly

  7. The Guy is looking at you when You´re not looking

  8. He tells his Friends about You

1. He’s nervous around You

Being nervous is a strong indicator that he just doesn’t know what to do with himself around you! If you notice him playing with his hands and not knowing where to put them, or maybe him trying to always have a friend around; a person he feels comfortable with and can use as a distraction if it gets too intense in your presence, then he sure likes you.

Nervously playing with his hands is a body language sign he is actually flirting with you. However, he´s more than a little afraid and unsure on what to do next. Maybe you want to help him out a bit, if you´re interested as well! Flirting with a shy guy definitely has its challenges, but with the right technique, that can be done as well!

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2. He asks about Your weekend Plans

Is he inquiring into your weekly schedule or weekend plans? If he´s saying things like “what are you doing this weekend?” or “what do you do after work?”, then he´s trying to figure out how to ask you out!

He´s waiting for the right moment, and is going for a vibe from you that indicates that you´re free and open to suggestions. If this cycle keeps repeating itself for a few weeks, maybe you want to take the lead on this one, before you´re both old and gray? If you need some inspiration with that, check out this article on what to talk about with a guy. Don´t be shy; he´ll be grateful.

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3. How to know when a Guy likes you but is scared? He happens to be at the same Place as You a lot!

Is he mingling and hanging around everywhere you go? Not in a creepy and stalker-like way, of course, but if he´s making an effort to be near you, talk to you whenever the chance arises, and just be present as often as possible, then he´s got a crush on you!

Is he taking his breaks at the same time as you or joins you and colleagues for happy-hour after a long work day, he might just be trying to get your attention (and number!).

Also read: How to make a Guy want you

4. One of the best Signs a Guy likes you but is scared? He´s smiling all over You!

Ah, the classic smile of someone who is fascinated with the other person. It´s easy to spot, and can make someone´s day. If he´s smiling from one end to the other, constantly, and at everything you say or do, he´s got a thing for you.

Men don´t smile that often, unless they have a really good reason to, since they like to showcase their toughness! You can feel quite special, if he´s giving you his charming smile at all times.

The eyes are part of it too. You can tell by the way he smiles, and how his eyes light up when he sees you (which is different than regular eye contact).

5. He doesn’t notice anything else around Him

Is he fixated only on you? Let´s say, if there´s an earthquake, do you think he´d notice? Most likely not, if he´s into you. A clear sign of interest is when you have his undivided attention for you and what you have to say.

He´s doesn’t want to be bothered with the conversation of others, and is in complete awe of you, but something is holding him back – his fear! Sounds familiar? Make him feel comfortable and show him that you like him too.

6. He compliments You shyly

Compliments are a tricky thing, since you can never sense how the person is going to react, but if he doesn’t care, and wants to compliment you anyway, then that’s a strong sign he secretly likes you more than just a friend. Does he tell you how great you look in your new outfit, or what beautiful eyes you have? He´s into you! No man will waste his energy on sincere compliments, if he doesn’t like you.

Don’t worry if he´s hesitant. It usually shows that he´s scared of the next move. He´s working his way up towards asking you out, but wants to get a feel for your response first by complimenting you. Compliment him back, if you´d like! It will help ease his anxiety.

7. The Guy is looking at you when You´re not looking

This is a big one, and friends can usually be good observers on that, and confirm your suspicion.

Is he looking at you a lot, when you´re not looking his way? He´s trying to watch the woman of his desires from afar and wants to admire your curves, your smile, and your beauty!

That’s how he does it, without being compromised and having to face you directly. Maybe he thinks you´re out of his league and he´s insecure with himself, and that´s what´s stopping him to approach you. Ask your friends to watch him for a bit, and give you feedback on how much he stared!

8. He tells his Friends about You

Still looking for more signs a guy likes you but is scared of admitting to it (and to you)? You might never have met his friends, but surprisingly enough, they all seem to know about you! That tells you that he talked about you at some point.

Maybe he confessed his feelings to his friends and they´re trying to play matchmakers. You can usually tell when they´re trying to set something up. An outside intervention of that sort is often a good plan, if the man himself is not confident enough to do it on his own.

It doesn’t mean he´s not a great guy, but maybe too shy and simply scared of what you will have to say! Any prior, negative experience with women, such as being turned down multiple times, can lead to a lack of confidence in the dating world.

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Should I Text Him first? – The best Ways to Know for sure!

So, it has been a few days and there was nothing but crickets on the phone. Naturally, you start to wonder “Should I text him first”?

woman and man playing at the beach on a dateThis is a very tricky question, and whose answer women often get wrong, unfortunately. It´s one of the most tempting things, if he´s not texting, to simply text first, and that´s ok, at least in some circumstances.

I´ve been getting it wrong many times myself, so don’t worry, you´re not alone in this endeavor. The best thing to do is to ask yourself a few essential questions, and then to make a smart decision based on the answers.

First, consider if one or more of the following situations apply.

  1. Something reminds you of Him

  2. Is He waiting for me to text Him? Yes, if He already told you He likes You!

  3. You want to apologize for Something

  4. You’re sure that You´re not addicted to Him

  5. You trust Your Instincts

  6. Should I Text him first? Yes, if you waited long enough!

  7. You’ve got a second Opinion

  8. Don’t text him … unless You have Something valid to say

If you feel in your particular situation one or even more of above applies, then you´re in the clear of texting him first without feeling awkward about it. Let’s get into these situations in more detail.

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1. Something reminds you of Him

It´s perfectly fine to send him a cute or funny text if something reminds you of him, even if you weren’t texting at the time. Let´s say you discussed favorite movies on your first date, and suddenly his favorite movie is on TV and you want to send him a screenshot of it. In such case, you should definitely go for it! You sending him a text message of something that the both of you talked about before, and that he likes, is one of those texts that will make him smile inside and outside.

He´ll love that you remembered something about him and will probably respond with something quirky. Men love when a woman remembers something about him that is of importance to him. It´s a win-win situation for the both of you!

2. Is He waiting for me to text Him? Yes, if He already told you He likes You!

You´re in a pretty secure place if you´re heavily flirting back and forth, and in the process, he already told you that he likes you. Then you have nothing to lose to text him first when you feel like it.

Don’t do it all the time, but if you just want to say “Hi, how is your day going?” or use another casual conversation starter, then there´s nothing wrong with that. He likes you, so of course he wants to hear from you, and will be happy to see a text from you pop up.

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3. You want to apologize for Something

If there´s something lying heavy on your heart, a matter of regret or embarrassment, then don’t wait around for him to text you, but rather take the first step. That way you can clear the air, be authentic and honest, and avoid any misunderstandings.

Do you feel you offended him with something you said last time you met? If you´re not sure, text him anyway and approach the subject delicately, and simply apologize. It´s not as hard as it sounds! And if he responds back positively, you can stop worrying about what he might think.

4. You’re sure that You´re not addicted to Him

This is the hardest lesson to learn, and believe me, we´ve all been there, but DON’T text him if you´re obsessing over him! You have to make sure that you´re acting healthy regarding him and not changing your whole life to accommodate his. Don’t text 10x a day and always be the first to text. Let him work for you too!

Be aware of addictive behavior, and if you recognize such, stay away from him, and wait it out. If he´s interested, he´ll text, otherwise let him go. Don’t come across as desperate and in love at a too early stage in your courtship. Appearing too desperate really is a major dating mistake.

It´s difficult to do, if you like him a lot, but stay strong and let the addiction pass. Only if you´re not behaving obsessively, you may text him first.

5. You trust your Instincts

If your gut feeling is giving you positive vibes and no hesitation about texting him first, then that’s probably a good intuition to go by – otherwise don’t. We love to ignore the warning signs, but usually when we feel something isn’t right about it, there´s a reason for it.

We may know, deep down, that he´s not worthy of our time and admiration. By going ahead with texting anyway, despite your inner doubts, you´ll only make matters worse. If your gut says yes, however, then text him first, if you´d like.

6. Should I Text him first? Yes, if you waited long enough!

You have every right to text him first, if you exchanged numbers and then nothing happens for a week! Give yourself some time, and don’t be pushy, but if 5-7 days have passed, please text him! At that point you can remind him of your meeting and tell him that you´d like to go out if he´s free.

Maybe he was just too shy to text you first, so find out the reasons behind it first. That’s a long time to wait after having a great encounter, and if you don’t make the first move, he´ll forget it ever happened, and you´ll become the dreaded “acquaintance” for life! Him not having text you up until now might be just a sign he likes you but is scared of making the first move.

7. You’ve got a second Opinion

It never hurts to listen to some expert advice from your closest friends! They will be brutally honest with you and tell you straight up what´s the best course of action. Don’t hesitate to tell them the situation and then ask if it´s OK for you to text first. Lay out all the facts, circumstances, and shared history, on which they can base their recommendation to you!

8. Don’t text him … unless You have Something valid to say

You still wonder “Should I text him first”? I generally advice against texting “hello” or “what are you up to?” only. It´s too vague and insignificant. If you´re interested in someone, you have to put a little more effort into your words.

My advice in general is to never text first unless you have something valuable to write. Tell him about a funny encounter today, or a show you just started watching and can´t stop binge-watching. He might want to catch up and watch an episode with you. This could be an idea of yours to slide into the conversation!

Everything you say should have meaning, even the shortest text message. Be specific and if you remember he had an important event today, ask him about that, or send your well-wishes in advance. It´s more than OK to text him first under those circumstances.

Also read: The best signs he deeply cares about you

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How to Flirt with a Shy Guy – Top 7 Flirting Tips

How to Flirt with a shy Guy – Start flirting right away!

Flirting in general is a skill to be learned, but flirting with a shy guy raises the stakes once more. Shyness is a nice characteristic, but it does come with some challenges in the dating area.woman wondering how to flirt with a shy guy

Fear of approaching someone, and showing interest are difficult tasks for a shy guy, which is where your part comes into play.

Here are our best tips on how to reach perfection in flirting with a shy guy. Applying some of these strategies will certainly help you overcome some of the challenges of dating a shy guy.

Not sure how to flirt with a shy guy and you may even wonder how to get a boyfriend down the road, even if he is shy? Read on!

  1. Signal him your Interest

  2. Ask him out Yourself

  3. Ask him for Assistance

  4. Listen attentively

  5. How to Flirt with a shy Guy? Be gentle and patient!

  6. Compliment him

  7. Text him

1. Signal him your Interest

Non-aggressive signals are the key to flirting with a shy guy, such as talking to the person more than to others, regularly keeping eye contact, or “accidentally” touching his arm or shoulders.

He will get the message without you having to say it right away.

2. Ask him out Yourself

Now, if you think the attraction is mutual, then don’t hesitant to ask him out. Since he’s shy, he most likely won’t do the asking.

Instead, shy guys are usually rather nervous around women in general. And, if he does ask you, he will take his sweet time, by which point you might have lost patience.

So the best thing to do is to ask him out yourself. Do it in an easy-going way, without expecting anything back. Ask if he wants to go have dinner with you and see a movie. Done! Then he knows you want to get to know him better and immediately starts to feel more comfortable.

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3. Ask him for Assistance

Wondering how to make a guy like you? Ask him for assistance! Even if you don’t need it, ask anyway.

Do you need to build an Ikea book-shelf for a friend, or need help with your computer (hoping he knows computers!)? Shy guys tend to be helpful, and this is one way of getting to be around him before making a first move, and to assess the situation a bit better.

Then, as a thank you, you can offer to take him out for dinner (date!), or invite him for drinks afterwards.  It’s the perfect excuse to plan a spontaneous date with him!

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4. Listen attentively

One characteristic that is usually appreciated by shy guys is the ability to listen. Moreover, one of the perks of dating a shy guy is that they tend to be good listeners and expect the same in return.

Listen to his stories and his answers to your questions closely, and try to remember details from it, which you can use again in a later conversation. Come up with some good follow-up questions when the chance arises. He’ll be impressed!

Recommended: How to tell if a Guy likes You?!

5. How to Flirt with a shy Guy? Be gentle and patient!

As hard as this is during the flirting process, be patient with him. One of the rules with shy men is that shy men need time and you need to give it to him, if you want to keep flirting.

Don’t throw yourself onto him in an aggressive way and expect too much, too soon. This will scare him away, rather than that he will become more interested in you. Be calm and gentle when you’re around him, and wait it out to see what happens.

If there’s a spark, then things will take its natural course. You can still ask him out on a date, but don’t be too needy or upfront on the first date. He might not be into that, and could prefer the type who takes things slower.

6. Compliment him

He might not be used to it, so it will be a pleasant surprise if you give him a genuine compliment. Make it something special and catch him by surprise. He will love it!

Maybe even find something about him that others don’t notice often, and compliment him on that? It will make it even more special, and shows you’re thoughtful and attentive. You can also use this tactic to integrate some intimacy. Tell him how great his hair looks and then stroke your hand through it, or touch it with your fingertips.

Either way, keep in mind that complimenting a man is usually one of the best ways how to make a guy fall in love with you. So it cannot be a wrong thing either, when figuring out how to flirt with a shy guy.

7. Text him

This might sound strange, but as a shy guy, he will probably be less comfortable with direct contact in the beginning. Welcome to the 21st century!

Luckily, emails, texts, or Facebook messages don’t require face to face interaction and to get the conversation, or rather flirting, started, just text him. Ask for his number, and break the ice by texting him something quirky.

There’s no harm in using emojis to express your feelings too! Go for it, and if he responds, there’s clear interest. The same approach applies to emails and all other types of digital communication.

Try out what makes him the most comfortable, and then work your way towards a first, face-to-face date. With this, the risk remains low if the flirting goes sour, and you can make it fun and playful in the meantime.

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How to Ask a Friend out – 7 Tips to Ask Him Out Like a Pro

How to Ask a Friend Out successfully – Avoid losing the Friendship

Asking a friend out is sort of like asking your doctor to come to your home to give you a check-up. It instantly gets more personal, and allows little room for mistakes.how to ask a friend out image

You want it to work out, because the stakes are exponentially higher than with a stranger.

Trying to understand how to ask a friend out on a date can be one of the most intimidating situation you can find yourself in. But there are certain rules to go about this great endeavor that will decrease the risk of losing the friendship, even if doesn’t work out.

To ensure the best outcome, follow these tips, and the asking might have just gotten a little easier.

    1. Ask a mutual Friend

    2. Make the first Move

    3. If Things go well

    4. How to get out of the Friend Zone? Talking is Gold!

    5. Show him your Femme Fatal

    6. He loves me, he loves me not…

    7. How to ask a Friend out for Coffee

1. Ask a mutual Friend

One of the biggest concerns when dating a friend is to lose the current friendship, in case things should go bad. One good advice here is to approach a mutual friend; she or he can usually confidently speak as to the current situation as she or he knows the both of you. This approach can help to overcome some concerns as to potentially losing or damaging the friend-zone!

By asking one of your mutual friends about him, you get one step closer to finding out his intentions, if he has any. Ask direct questions, and leave no stone un-turned. Did he talk about you? If so, what did he say? What is his type? What does he think about you?

Just make sure to ask a trustworthy friend who can keep a secret until you are ready to take the next step. You want to avoid an embarrassing situation, in which a friend decides to talk, and consequently ruins your plans.

2. Make the first Move

Ask him to go out with you and your mutual friends. Going out in a group will appease your anxiety, and it allows for time to observe the situation.

When appropriate, make a move by asking him to dance, or buy him a drink and start chatting when the others aren’t around. Take charge, and find out if he’s feeling the same way.  Give compliments, when the chance arises.

another great way to reach out to him and make the first move towards asking him out, is to send him a text message here and there, and see what reaction you get back. Send him a few texts to make him smile and see what he comes back with!

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3. If Things go well

If you are unsure about his feelings, check out some signs he likes you more than a friend to find out if he is interested in more. In case you then think the interest is mutual, start spending time together alone.

Go see a movie, work out together, or invite him over to your apartment and cook one of your specialties. Activities as such will show if you get along and have topics to talk about as a potential couple.

The advantage when asking a friend out on a date is that you already know each other enough to have a certain level of comfort, which allows for authentic behavior on both parts. It helps that you know about his hobbies and interests, so use this knowledge wisely.

It will help you plan a fun first date, and he will applaud you for your efforts, even if he remains a friend.

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4. How to get out of the Friend Zone? Talking is Gold!

An essential part of asking a friend out is to guarantee the other person that it won´t damage or destroy your friendship. Be open about what your expectations are and don´t shy away from an honest conversation.

You know the risk, and if you´re still willing to give it a shot, then it´s worth going for it.

Not entirely sure what to talk about with a guy when trying to ask him out? Well, there is a reason you feel attracted to him, so tell him why you want to go out with him and what characteristics you like most about him.  He will be happy to hear it.

However, be modest with your sweet talk. You don´t want to scare him away!

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5. Show him your Femme Fatal

One of the things that separate a friend from a potential girlfriend is the lack of sex and physical attraction. In order to see you as someone he wants to go out on a date with, you should give him a preview of your girlfriend potential.

Show him a different side of you! He already knows your character and heart, but what he doesn’t know yet is your sexual side. This doesn’t mean that you should have sex right away. Not at all, actually!

Give it time, but in the meantime, show him what´s on the menu. Dress to impress, show off your body, be confident and proud, and act passionately by kissing him with the full intention of taking him home (even if you don’t).

6. He loves me, he loves me not…

In the end, your story either ends with the two of you being in love, or you will remain friends.

By the way, if you are still kind of shy about you asking him out, you can always also try it the other way around, meaning find a way to make him take the initiative. Check out this article here to see how to get a guy to ask you out, instead.

Hopefully it was a mutual decision, but if things didn’t work out, don´t hold a grudge. That´s why talking through it is crucial to avoid a crisis, in case things don’t go as planned.

Respect the other person´s feelings and start the rehabilitation process of your friendship, if needed. You will be happy to have tried. And if things did work out, be as happy as you can be!

7. How to ask a Friend out for Coffee

Let’s look at one very specific way of asking a friend out, that is asking him out for a coffee. Why for a coffee? Because asking someone of for a cup of coffee is pretty much the most casual way you can put the idea of getting together.

Further, ‘casual’ is exactly what you want to sound and appear, when asking a friend out, as this reduces the risk of ruining any friendship the two of you currently have.

  • Do not ‘Go’ for a Coffee, ‘Grab’ a Coffee, instead!

Why? Because the word ‘grab’ makes the invitation sound very casual and informal. Not only does this make the person you invite feel more comfortable to either accept or possibly  deny the invite, but it also makes you look very relaxed and casual about the potential get-together.

And that is exactly how you want to appear in case the person you ask out ends up turning your invite down.

  • Use the Word to be “up for” a Cup of Coffee

Instead of asking him to ‘grab’ a cup of coffee, you can also use the term to be ‘up for’ a cup of coffee. Here again, to be ‘up for’ sounds very casual and avoids any potential uncomfortable situation.

  • Ask him out in Person, not via Phone or Text!

By the way, the best way to ask your friend out is in person, instead of over the phone or via text. That allows sounding even more casual, as you can tie in the conversation about ‘grabbing’ a cup of coffee with any other conversation you are already having.

Moreover, it gives you the opportunity to physically appear self-secure and open, by e.g. looking in his eyes and smiling.

On the other hand, when asking your friend out over the phone or via text message, the other person might wonder how exactly you meant this invite – as a friendship invite or as something that might lead to more.

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