Getting over Your Ex – and get your Life back!
If you have been fortunate enough to live past your early 20s, then you know that getting over your ex is one of the biggest dilemmas of adulthood. It can be heart-wrenching painful, difficult and, more often than not, it will feel like daring the impossible.
We’ve all been there, and if it is the first time you are trying to forget an ex-husband or ex-boyfriend, then welcome to the other side of love and relationships.
Where it has to get a little worse before it finally gets better.
That being said, we are all about giving great relationship advice for women. So here are some great tips that will help you piece your heart together. Read on and learn to move on with your life and, equally important, help you learn to love again in the future.
Accept that it never worked and that It isn’t entirely your Fault
It okay to mourn your lost Love, but don’t wallow in your pitiful State forever
Go out, let your Hair down and have some Fun
Minimize all Contact
Hit the Gym
1. Accept that it never worked and that It isn’t entirely your Fault
A majority of us will first try very hard to rationalize why men pull away to begin with, and then go on to blame ourselves for a failed relationship sometimes even for as long as several years after it is long over.
Fine, both of you might have had something to do with the broken union, but as the saying goes; it takes two to tango. You were both responsible for the breakup and you shouldn’t go on feeling as if you solely caused the split. At the same time, accept your loss with grace and maturity.
It is only after you have completely come to terms with your heartbreak that you will be ready to rebuild your life again.
2. It okay to mourn your lost Love, but don’t wallow in your pitiful State forever
Girls, it’s perfectly okay to have an ‘emotional flu‘, and such ’emotional flu’ is actually quite important in getting over your ex. This is the time and phase after a breakup that you give yourself some time to get it all out of your system.
So lock yourself in for one or two days, scream, sob, listen to slow, melancholic music with an infinite repeat until you feel like it’s all out. It is only after this that you will start to heal and mend those broken pieces.
3. Go out, let your Hair down and have some Fun
Note, this doesn’t in any way imply reckless partying, drinking yourself silly and ending up in a stranger’s bed. While it is important to allow yourself time to grief by loosening up a bit, you will still need to have your limits in check. Otherwise, you end up even more hurt than you were before.
Alternatively, you can skip the nightclubs and go for a short, relaxing vacation to unwind, refocus and ‘find yourself again.’ We can all agree that relationships have a way of sucking up your energy, spirit, and soul. Getting out of town for a week or two can help you come back to old self by reprogramming back your body and mind to its default, ‘pre-breakup’ setting.
4. Minimize all Contact
Out of sight, out of mind. It is as simple as that. If it helps, unfriend / unfollow him on your social media profile and delete all past ‘cute messages’. Find a way of getting rid of his stuff and cut off all unnecessary physical links with them.
And depending on how acrimonious the break-up was, sometimes it may be necessary to delete their contacts and cut them off completely from your life. But that’s a little bit on the extreme side. Minimizing day-to-day contact should be just enough.
5. Pamper Yourself
As women, we tend to forget how special we are when we are in a relationship. It’s not surprising that most women will go out of their way to make a relationship last – sometimes even when love has already flown out of the window. It’s our protective, motherly instincts coming into play and there is nothing wrong with that.
However, you have to re-discover yourself if at all there is any chance for you moving on. So now, instead of expecting him to do all the nice things for you, it is probably time you did them for yourself. So take yourself out for a cute coffee or quick dinner date to that fancy restaurant out of town. Sooner rather than later, you will start feeling your self-worth soar high again.
6. Hit the Gym
Yes, get that dream body back. You might have been hurt, but this doesn’t mean that you should stay sad and indoors forever. Go out there, sweat it out and feel a surge of confidence pumping through veins!
In other words, there is life even after a nasty break up. Follow above steps for getting over your ex boyfriend, and move on.